Dilemma sungguh...

Kadang-kadang, pernah tak rasa, I better off jadi bimbo yg tak berfikir, just have fun and enjoy the moment...??? Berharap otak kita berhenti berfikir terlalu banyak, as we are not getting any pay pon buat overtime works. :P

I bet most girls do.

I mean, most girls I know do, as we are not bimbo to begin with. (well, girls with brain are hot stuff by new urban dictionary that I created)

Well. Its difficult u know. To stop thinking, for girls la. at least.

contoh situasi:

Ajak kawan keluar lunch, but then, u nak cancel last minute sbb byk kerja.

When ur friend insist nak lunch jugak, u say...dlm hati ' alamak, selfish giler kau! mcm mana la aku boleh kawan ngan org2 gini nih?????' Nak pergi ker tak nak nih???????

Fikir 1000 kali sekajap dlm hati nak pergi ker tanak....??? Kalau pergi apa jadi...kalau tak pergi apa jadi????

long term, medium term and short term consequences and complications semua diambil kira.....

Akhirnya tetap tak pergi jugak.

Typikal.

org pompuan.

Tapi cuba kalau ur friend ckp.. 'Oh, its ok, I faham u byk kerja. Its ok, I'll be fine lunch sorang-sorang'

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Ur reactions will be...damn! bersalah giler!

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2 seconds later u'll go : 'wait, is she trying to reverse psycho me?????? she is, isn't she??? dem! she's good!' 'Nahhhh..I think, she meant it single-heartedly...' 'eh, jap....mcm nak merajuk jer bunyi dia nih...' and soooooo on.....

Can't our brain be channelled to think simple. Kalau org insist, we say again, sorry, tak sempat ni. ok dah, letak talipon. Kalau org tu dah kata dia faham, dah la. Good. settle. habis citer.

Can't we?

We cannot....unfortunately.

Blunt

Salam,

Blunt and sarcastic, one of which surely is my middle name that emak forgot to put in the surat beranak. :)

What is wrong with being blunt?

Being blunt is good.

I really think that being blunt actually prevent us from developing some kind of psychosis or disturbed behaviour. Seriously. At least protective against depression. For sure la..!

How many times, that we found it hard to say something because we are afraid that it might offend other people? and also how many time that you feel good after u burst and throw ur anger at someone?

Well, if you say yes to the second question, dude, you need some help. I meant it! 

Emotional stress is daunting and can push one to her/his limit. When they can't handle this emotional load any further, some might burst (or cry). Bursting or exploding towards someone could never be healthy. We know that. don't we. tapi bila masa kejadian meletopkan segala perasaan yg terbuku ini terjadi, kita tak mampu berfikir secara waras. Kita mungkin hilang rasional. Kemudian kita menyesal. 

Tapi apa gunanya? The damage has been done. Move on jer la. 

so, to prevent this, kita perlukan effective communication. How is it done? tak tahu. jujur tak tahu.  tak byk pengalaman lg dalam hal ini. Tapi, I know for sure, being true and transparent with our opinion or feelings is the main ingredient of effective long term communication. 

(sila note: long term) 

The good thing about being blunt is that, you say what you feel and get that negative (or positive) feeling sorted.

Problem solve.

The end.

Masalahnya, org melayu terutamanya, are too polite to tell what they think or feel. Till the end, meletop, ruin everything. That's a shame, kan?Seharusnya ini boleh di elakkan dengan duduk dan berbincang. Cakap betul2. Kenapa lah perlu sembunyikan ketidak-puas-hati- an. and swallow things bitterly?

What is wrong with being blunt?

Nothing. Nothing is wrong with being blunt, but I chose to be political tonight so I'd say, It's ok to be blunt as long as u are not hurting anyone's feeling. 

Yes.

Macam contradictory. I know.

Sebab, there's one rule to follow if u want to be blunt. One rule:

Be TACTFUL when u throw ur opinion in the air. Otherwise, u are not blunt.You are being plain RUDE my dear.

Berbincang dan berbicaralah secara berhikmah. 

If u want to be blunt, be tactful too. Kalau tak, just shut up and suck it!

The End.

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